Growing up I didn’t know my real father (I still do not know him) but, I had an amazing Dad. Some of you may not understand that statement but, a parent who raises a child blood or not is still a parent! To me the term step-mom or step-dad sounds harsh. I called my “step-dad” Dad, most people didn’t even know he wasn’t my birth father until I told them. I feel the same goes for Children too. If you are not the child’s biological parent you don’t have to call them your step-daughter/son or your step-children. Instead you can just claim them as your own. I mean you are involved in their lives and are helping to raise them. My dad has always called my siblings and I his children. Made us feel accepted and loved. My whole point, is that you should treat your family equally and if you have “step-children” claim them as your own. Nothings feels better than being accepted by those you love!
Here are a few tips:
- Involve all children in your home in decision making and or family votes. Let them have a voice too.
- Make sure to use the same punishments on your own children as you do your significant other’s children. You do not want any child, yours or your significant others child/ren to feel as if they are treated differently or more harshly. Be fair and concise.
- Take one day a week to spend one on one time with each child and talk about them and what is going on in their life. Get involved
- If you are at a point to express love to your significant others child/ren then, tell them you love them. Don’t make them say it first or feel as if they are not loved because you are not sure how to express yourself. Just do it!!! Express your love
- Do not and I repeat Do not talk bad about their parent/s whether it is your child/ren’s or your significant others child/ren’s parent/s! No child deserves to here any negativity or your opinion about someone they love and who loves them back even, if you do not like them! By the same token do not let any child living under your roof or staying part-time under your roof talk bad about their parent/s! Teach Respect and Manners
- Do not and I again I repeat Do Not argue in with other parent/s in front of your child/ren this, just shows them that it is okay to lash out and in turn they might feel that it’s okay. Set a good example
- Let your child/ren all know that they can come to you and count you whether it is good or bad!! Show interest, humility, and compassion