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April, 2017

Grandma’s help please.

By April 29, 2017 Family Life, General

Today after I looked at my house and realized I have neglected it the past few days. I then thought wow, I feel like I don’t know whose house I am in and it needs a makeover quick.  I work the night shift as a Black Jack Dealer so, sometimes I’m just to tired for house work.  On the nights I work I only sleep about 3-4 hours a day because of my weird hours.

I looked at my house today like it was a scary movie and I swear to you the horror movie theme music is playing in the back of my mind.  Then, I feel like running and screaming out of my house in hopes that the bad guys don’t find me lol.  I guess I felt this way because I can’t stand a dirty home.  I mean toys lying around while the kids play is one thing but, when I can’t see my counter top because everything has been set on it bugs me so bad. So, I decided to call grandma and ask her if she wanted baby time.  She said, “of course, I’d love to have Savannah Bananas for the night.”  I said, “Thank God mom because my house looks like a tornado hit it and you know I can’t stand it.”

Not that I can’t clean the house while baby is home but, it is so much easier to super clean when she is away or occupied by daddy.  Daddy had to work though so, grandma saved me from having to clean and entertain baby. Plus she gets quality grandma time and I can clean in peace lol.  I also, get will be able to enjoy a full nights rest to make up for lack of sleep during the work week.

 

Thank you Mom

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Homemade Fried Potatoes!

By April 27, 2017 General, Recipes

Prep Time: 5 min

Cook Time: 20 min

I like my Fried potatoes to be flavorful so, if you are like me here is how I cook my them.

What you need:

  • 8 medium sized potatoes
  • 2 tbs olive oil
  • 1/2 onion diced
  • 1/2 green bell pepper diced
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 2 teaspoon pepper
  • 1 tbs Italian seasoning
  • 1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper
  • 4 tbs butter

First put 2 tbs olive oil in large frying pan.  Slice 8 medium sized potatoes place half of them in the frying pan adding onion bell pepper.  Then sprinkle half of your salt, pepper, Italian seasoning, and crushed red pepper.  Start cooking on medium high heat.  Then place other half of sliced potatoes in the pan sprinkling the rest of your seasonings over top and adding 4 tbs of butter in different areas over top of potatoes.   Put lid on frying pan and let fry for 5 min. Take lid of pan flip and stir potatoes around and then put lid back on let fry for another 5 min.  Turn heat down to medium low heat flip and stir potatoes again and let cook for another ten min checking and flipping until done.  If you prefer crispier potatoes keep on medium high heat until done.

I use this recipe with meatloaf, pork chops, chicken whatever you want.

Then sometimes when I want what I call a hobo dinner I just cut up a 3 Johnsonville medium or spicy flavored brats in it and now you have a quick easy meal and hardly any mess to clean up.

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Angel in Diapers: My first memory ever!!!

By April 27, 2017 Family Life, General

When I first became a mom my biggest fear was potty training, poop everywhere, and having a child like me. lol  This is because my first memory as a child had to do with me digging in my diapers and smearing poop on a wall.   I am pretty sure I was your typical “Rugrat”.

My mom has 3 children and I am the oldest.  I have a sister who is a year and 2 months younger than me and a brother, who is 6 yrs and 7 months younger than me.  Apparently when my sister was born I was very jealous and decided to potty train myself.  My mom loves to tell the stories of how rotten I was.  Which, does make for some funny conversations.

I don’t remember some of the things she says but, some things are like flashbacks and I can still see the images that are burned into my memories.

Back to my why I am afraid of a mini me.  So, my first memory is of me hiding behind a chair laughing and having a ball with brown stuff all over my hands and the walls lol.  One day I decided to ask my mom about this incident because the show “Rugrats”, was very popular at the time.  I remember that the babies on the show would hide cookies and whatever else in their diapers.

I asked, “mom, did I hide things in my diapers as a baby because I remember sitting behind a chair and I was playing with something brown and I had it smeared everywhere on the walls, myself and the chairs?”  Which, I assumed I had found chocolate and hid it in my diaper.  My mom said, “Yes, you hid things in your diapers like toys, food, and my car keys.”  She then laughed and said, “But, that incident was you smearing shit all over my walls.”  Shocked and embarrassed lol, I said, “No way, why would I do that!?!”  She said, “Well, after your sister was born you started doing things like taking your diaper off, pooping in the floor, hiding behind a chair and pooping, and sometimes you would take your diaper off in front of me and look at me like what the hell lady aren’t you gonna help me.”  Jokingly, I said, “Well, you shouldn’t have had another baby and then decide to neglect me lol.”  She laughed and said, “Nope that’s when I knew you were to big to be in diapers and you were potty trained by the time you were 1 and 1/2.”

To her that was when I decided I was a big girl and could do things by myself. I thought, yeah by smearing poop everywhere lol.  I then thought, wow I am never having kids.

So far I haven’t had any poop problems from my girls but, one is 11 and potty training was easy for her.  My baby is only 16 months and she has the same personality as I did when I was little.  My mom likes to tell me all the time that she is a mini me only a little worse lol.  I hope she doesn’t become the next poop monster lol.

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Introducing my 3 daughters.

By April 26, 2017 Family Life, General

I have 3 beautiful daughters.  2 of them I actually gave birth to.  They each have a different story.

Takota:  Takota, is the oldest.  She just turned 14 this month.  She is my husbands first child from a past relationship.  Honestly she has just recently come into our lives.  She reminds me of myself as a child.  Struggling to know who she is because of not knowing her father.  I feel that us being in each others lives is a blessing in disguise. 🙂 As with most teens though she struggles with communicating and feels like no one cares.  So, this has been a new challenge in my life trying to help her realize that she does belong somewhere and that people do care about her.  She is a very smart girl and is in honors classes at her school.  The only hard thing is that she is reserved and stays to herself in some ways, especially if it’s anything personal.  Which,thinking back I was that way too and some of it for me trust issues.

Kiara:  Kiara, is the middle child also,my oldest.  She just turned 11 this past March.  Kiara, lives with her father 9 hours away.  She is just about to enter middle school and is learning that her body is changing lol.  Next year she will be starting middle school and because she’s a straight A student they will be letting her in role into honors classes.  She has the I know everything attitude which, sometimes makes me mad but, laugh at the same time because I know she gets it honestly. 🙂  Her father and I were never married and when she was born we were not together so, to her our family life style is normal.  But, since, my husband and I had a baby, and her dad and other mom have had two baby’s, she has had new questions.  Like, “why are my parents not together?”  Which, was never a problem before so, now we try to help her understand that she is still just as important and that she gets to escape from each household lol 🙂  where as her siblings arestuck hahaha.

Savannah:  Savannah is my 16 month old little girl.  She is my husband and I’s baby.  She started walking at 10 months and has been a tornado ever since lol. 🙂  Already, she has quite the personality and mix between the other two girls, her dad, and I.  Let’s just say at times that can be a big handful but, she can make you smile even when you don’t want to.  She is still struggling with what no means lol.  Also, learning that dog food is her favorite snack which, I will be sharing as a story with her future friends.  The best part of being a parent is sharing the embarrassing stories lol.  She is starting to talk more and learning knew words everyday.  Funny insight about her is that she is afraid of men who don’t have a lot of hair or a beard lol.  Her dad is bald with facial hair and I am assuming if a man doesn’t have facial hair she believes she can’t trust them.  Idk why she likes men with long hair the only thing I can think is that she possibly thinks they are women lol.  No offense to men with long hair, it’s just the only thing that makes sense to me.

 

Well, those are my Girls and the loves of my life along with my goofy husband of course. 🙂

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4 Major tips to help a split family home!

By April 25, 2017 Family Life, General, My Tips and Tricks

If your a family that is split up into different homes or maybe soon to be split up then, these tips are for you.  As I have previously stated my family is a multi- split family.  What I mean by that is: My husband has a 14 year old daughter from a previous relationship in life, I have an 11 year old daughter from a past relationship, and we have a 14 month old daughter together.  In today’s world this has become more and more common.  It’s not that I am promoting it because trust me I wish we weren’t a split family.  It’s just that these things do happen and it doesn’t have to be the end of the world.  You can make it work and more importantly make it work for your children.  Who by the way didn’t ask to be put in between whatever happened in your relationship/s.

Here are a few tips on how to make this type of family work:

  1. Forgive: whatever happened in your relationship that caused you to split leave it behind.  Forgive each other and move on things happen.  We all make mistakes and or sometimes it just wasn’t meant to be.  Do not keep your child away from the other parent unless for good reason.  For example: other parent is abusive or on drugs.  Him/ Her having a new significant other is no excuse get over it.  That is just jealousy and do you really want to keep your child from their parent who loves them over your jealousy? No!
  2. Agree on household Rules: Do not try to play the good parent your only hurting your kids and without realizing it you are making your children dislike one of their parents.  Wrong and when they get older they will realize it and then it will take some time for them to forgive you for hurting them like that.  For example: if dad does not like your child watching R rated movies and staying up past 9 then make that same rule in your house.
  3. Communicate: don’t assume that whatever your child says is the truth. Not that your kids lie it’s just that sometimes they do not fully understand and they repeat things wrong etc.  For example: My daughter told her father that I didn’t give her a bath in the 4 weeks she was here lol.  He got mad of course which, I did not give her a bath the whole time she was here, she took showers lol.  He didn’t ask her if she had showers.
  4. Spend time together as one big family:  go to a park, out to eat, to a movie, etc.  For Example:  My husbands 14 year old daughter wanted to go to a haunted hay ride for Halloween and her mom wanted to take her.  My husband had to work but, I wanted to go too so, I went with with her and met up with her mom and her mom’s boyfriend and 3 other children.  We had a blast and I got to know her mom, mom’s boyfriend, and her 3 other siblings. Which, is a part of her too.

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Long Distant Parenting calling and care Packages!

By April 24, 2017 Family Life, General

One of my daughters lives 9 hrs away with her father. This is going on year 6 with her dad.  She just turned 11 this past March.

Being a parent in a separate household is hard but, being a parent 9 hrs away is pretty tough to me.  Especially, when it comes to rules.  Which, is why communication is key.  I don’t get to see or participate at school functions, games, or any other extra curricular activity she may be signed up for.  But, I do make sure to call once or twice a week to see how she’s doing and to check on grades etc.  These phone calls are important to both her and me.  She gets to tell me how she’s doing, what’s new, how her grades are, and if she has any issues that she only wants to talk to mom about.  And, I get to hear her voice and smile at how grown up she’s sounding.

Recently when I called I found out that she made all A’s and 4’s on her report card.  That she is learning about the changes her body is having.  Which, luckily when I went up to visit her for her birthday last month we talked a little bit about.  So, I asked her if she had anymore questions about her body and we talked a little bit about that and how she’s noticing boys.  Which, I am not ready for but, I know needs to be discussed.  She let me know how softball is going, which, it’s been raining a lot so they haven’t got to do much.  I am able to tell her I know that because I am on the coaches text list so, I get the messages about practices being canceled due to weather.  This makes her feel like I am involved even though I am not there with her.

I then ask her if she has been good and she usually tells the truth lol.  It’s funny because I don’t have to ask her dad or her other mom since, she tells on herself. Which, I used to do as a kid too.  But, that doesn’t stop me from talking with them and asking how they choose to punish because as your children grow older punishments should change too.  Plus this keeps us on the same page of our parenting technique and we can discuss how we both would like situations handled.

It’s that time of year when we send her a care package.  We Usually try to send one in the spring before school lets out and in the fall a month after school starts.  These packages are fun to make and easy to do.  Which, also helps her know that I do care and that I do pay attention to what she likes.

Care Package Ideas:

  • clothes shirts, pants, underwear, socks, etc. something they particularly like.
  • Jewelry
  • favorite snack
  • Journal with a note from you in the front.
  • Pics of the family back home.
  • presents from other family members (be sure to let your family know ahead of time.
  • books, comic books, CD’s, a gift card etc.
  • deodorant, body sprays, etc.

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Angel’s Spicy Meatloaf Recipe!!!

By April 24, 2017 General, Recipes

Prep time: 10-15 min

Cook time: 50 min

What you will need:

  • 1 lb hamburger meat
  • 5 diced pickled jalapeno
  • 1/2 onion diced
  • 1/2 green bell pepper diced
  • 1/2 teaspoon pepper
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 1/4 teaspoon cinnamon
  • 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce
  • 1 teaspoon pickled jalapeno juice
  • 1 can mild or hot Rotel
  • 1/2 pack of Ritz Crackers crushed
  • 1 egg

Glazed Ketchup Topping:

  • 1/2 cup Ketchup
  • 1 tbs mustard
  • 2 tbs brown sugar

mix together until brown sugar is fully blended in.

Pre-heat oven 400 degrees

In a large mixing bowl combine meat, diced jalapeno, diced onion, diced bell pepper, pepper, salt, cinnamon, Worcestershire sauce, jalapeno juice, 1 can mild Rotel,  Then mix in 1 egg and 1/2 pack of Ritz crackers crushed.  After mixed place into medium 9 x 12 glass baking pan.  Then spread ketchup glaze evenly over top of meatloaf and bake for 50 min.

While baking you can make any sides you prefer to go with it.  I usually do mac-n-cheese and fried or mashed potatoes.  If you like homemade sides I will be adding recipes for sides soon.

Serve and enjoy!!!

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My stuffed Bell Peppers Recipe!!!

By April 24, 2017 General, Recipes

no prep time everything can be prepared while cooking.

Cook time: 30-40 min

What you will need:

  • 5 -8 Green Bell Peppers
  • 1 lb hamburger meat
  • 1 can re-fried beans
  • 1 package taco seasoning, original, mild, medium, spicy, whatever you like. I use spicy.
  • 1/2 onion diced to cook in meat.
  • 1 box Spanish Rice (Rice a Roni)
  • 2 tbs butter
  • 1 cup water
  • 1 can Mexican style Rotel
  • 1 package 8 oz cream cheese
  • 1 bag of shredded Mexican 4 cheese blend
  • 1 tomato diced for topping
  • lettuce chopped for topping
  • 1/2 Onion diced for topping
  • Sour cream, jalapeno, salsa etc whatever else you like as toppings

Start with cooking Spanish Rice in large skillet.  First saute on medium heat with two tbs butter until Vermicelli is golden brown.  While rice sautes:

Cut the tops of Green Bell Peppers off and take the seeds out rinse off place them in a pot half full of water and boil over medium heat when water boils boil for ten min.

After rice sautes add 1 cup of water, 1 can of Mexican style Rotel, and the Spanish rice seasoning mix that came in box of Spanish rice.  Stir and bring to boil reduce heat and let simmer 20 min.  While rice simmers:

Pre-heat oven to 350 degrees

Start cooking 1 lb hamburger meat in medium skillet. While cooking the meat cut 1 onion into diced pieces and place 1/2 of the diced onion into the hamburger meat.  Place other 1/2 of diced onion into a container for toppings. dice up one tomato, some lettuce and place your other toppings on counter in a line to set up for when ready. Once hamburger meat is completely brown then add taco seasoning let cook on medium heat for 5 min.  while meat cooks 5 min longer:

Drain Green bell peppers as they should be ready at this time, place into glass baking pan to cool off.  Then mix hamburger meat, 1 can re-fried beans, and 1 8 oz package of cream cheese into the Spanish rice. let cook for 5 min.  while mixture is cooking:

cut Bell peppers in half and then place mixture into each half.  Sprinkle with shredded Mexican 4 cheese blend, then place in oven and let bake for 5 min.

Then enjoy

whatever mixture is left if any can be used as a chip dip.  I like Cool Ranch Doritos myself but, you can use anything.

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Mall Day with the Lady’s!! No kids!!

By April 24, 2017 Family Life, General

As parents we all know that getting a little time out alone is sometimes more difficult than we realize.  But, we also have to remember to take time for ourselves.  I usually do so by going shopping, grocery shopping, getting hair done, and sleeping haha just kidding.

I needed a day out friends, some actual adult conversations.  I love my kids but, there are just some things I cannot tell or share with them.  So, My friend Krystle, my sister Jessica, and I all decided to go to the mall.  Now, mind you we were actually shopping for our kids.  My sister has two boys she wanted to get some clothes for and I had to get clothes for 2 of my girls.  You may ask, “If your shopping for your kids, then why don’t you take them?”  Well, my answer to you is simple. “We needed a day out to ourselves and as parents who care about our children and their interests, we are already know what they like.  Also, going to the mall with your kids is a bad idea especially if your only planning on getting them a few things.

My sister and I had coupons for The Children’s Place so, of course that is where we went.  we purchased 160 dollars worth of clothes for 4 kids.  I can’t even leave Wal-mart or the grocery store without spending 250-300 dollars.  Which, is another reason why we didn’t take the kids.  Because it turns into but, I want this, I want that, and why don’t you ever let me get what I want?  I love my kids but, it’s true sometimes they can act a little ungrateful.  Like I said before though you can get them things without them if you pay attention to their likes and dislikes.  Then when you return home from your peaceful day out they will be happy and excited that you thought of them and brought them home something.  Which, in turn I believe teaches them to also, think more about others while they are out and about.

Remember just because the old saying, “do as your told not as I do.” is still popular does not mean it works.  Parents what you do and say is what your children typically do and say, maybe not around you but, they do.  I remember being a child and yes, I learned from my parents.  I’m not saying it was all bad but, kids pick up on the bad things we do too.  We can only dream that they only pick up our good habits.

In all our day out was a success.  We were able to talk, laugh, and shop without interruptions, whining, and being climbed on.  I did of course give the baby a hug and cuddled with her when I got home because I missed her.  The other 2 girls our not home or I would have cuddled them to lol.  But, in all I was refreshed, rejuvenated, and I didn’t come home feeling more exhausted and I saved money.

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My Name is Angel, Why I am doing the 30 Day Blog Challenge!

By April 24, 2017 Family Life, General

Hi,

My name is Angel Bradley.  I decided to do The 30 Day Blog Challenge because I’ve always wanted to do a blog to help people like myself.  I belong to a multi-split family.  My husband and I together have 3 beautiful daughters.  Our Daughters 14, 11, and 16 months old.  Only the 16 month old lives full-time with us.  The 14 year old is My husbands first Daughter she lives with Grandma for now.  The 11 year old is my first daughter and she is going on her 6th year living with her dad.  But, we see them all 3 as ours even though we have to share them.

I am starting this blog as a way to reach out to people who are in the same situation as myself and need help, advice, and ideas how to make these types of homes work.  Sharing is not easy at time especially when it comes to sharing our children.  But, that seems to be growing into a more and more typical “Family Life Today”.  Along the way I will share how this dysfunctional family is actually very functional; we honestly shock people all the time with our success as one huge family. I also share:

  • how to get along with the other parents
  • how to spend time as one big family (as it is very important for the kids)
  • tips on things not to do (like do not ever talk bad about the other parent to your kids)
  • advice on some of our parenting tricks which, we are still learning ourselves.  No one is perfect and children do not come with a manual unfortunately.
  • I will also be providing some of my favorite recipes.
  • and a few other basic/fun things and ideas.

Our 11 year old daughters is actually very much accustom to this type of family life.  She has never known her mommy and daddy together as in life sometimes these things happen.  Yes, she has asked several questions and we have done our best to answer those questions.  We also, try to answer them as she grows since, there are some things a 5 yr old will not understand versus a 8 yr old etc.  Age appropriate answers are very crucial to a young mind.  We also do not want our children to grow up to fast or feel overwhelmed with adult knowledge.   Life in the Bradley household is always busy but, we wouldn’t know how to nor would we want to live any other way.

 

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